把解决问题的权利还给孩子
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孩子与孩子之间难免会出现矛盾冲突,争抢玩具、故意挑逗、不慎触犯等事件屡见不鲜,遇到这种事,我们教师的做法一般是赶快制止、解决矛盾,以免矛盾“升级”,大打出手,而一件小事却改变了我的观念,在重视孩子矛盾冲突的基础上,不如留一个空间,把解决问题的权利还给孩子。

一天,孩子户外活动,我们一起来到了“火车站”。小朋友都很喜欢玩火车上的方向盘,学着司机叔叔那样拉鸣笛,开火车。丁丁与当当因争抢火车的方向盘而争吵起来,互不相让,我刚想上前处理时,却发现两个孩子正在用自己的办法解决问题。当当说:“你不能一个人玩,老师说玩具是大家一起玩,要分享的。” 丁丁说:“是我先来的,你不能抢我的方向盘。”当当说:“那好吧,我们用数数的方法,每人玩二十下,好吧?”丁丁同意了当当的建议,两个人高高兴兴地玩起来了。我微笑地在旁边看着这一切。当我再看到丁丁和当当的时候,他们已经用了一个更好的办法,一个人拉鸣笛:“呜——呜——”,一个人开火车:“火车开啦!轰隆隆!轰隆隆!”真像火车就要开来一样。

冲突是指活动参与者之间相互反对或一方阻止另一方企图的自觉行为,它是教育活动中的基本互动形态。我们应该如何解决幼儿之间的冲突矛盾呢? 除了给幼儿创造一个宽松的环境 ,并教给幼儿一些避免和解决冲突的基本技巧之外,我还特别注重增强幼儿自我解决冲突矛盾的能力。 比如,我们班解决问题的方法就有三部曲:一、说出你当时的感受;二、说出对对方的感受;三、一起商量解决的办法。比如,一位小朋友抢了另外一位小朋友的书,这位被抢的小朋友可以这样表述自己:一、你抢了我的书,我很不开心;二、我觉得你这样做不对,你如果想看,可以先征求我的同意;然后两个小朋友可以商量解决的办法:两个人一起看,或是等待另外一个人看完后再看等等。

在幼儿园的日常生活中,冲突时有发生,如果所有的冲突都让教师参与解决,会增加幼儿解决问题的依赖性。为此我们教师要于放手并鼓励幼儿自己想办法解决冲突。这样一来不单可以培养幼儿独立解决问题的能力和责任感,还可以使幼儿获得成功感和满足感。我们不要只看到矛盾冲突不好的方面,更要看到它有利

于孩子成长、进步的一面,正是这些冲突提供了孩子们社交能力发展的机会,也提供了老师们观察、了解孩子,引导孩子成长的机会。我们要关注、重视并合理地引导解决这些每天都会发生在孩子们之间的矛盾冲突,也要鼓励孩子自己却解决问题,把解决问题的权利还给孩子!

 

Give Children the Ability to Solve Problems


The following are inevitable conflicts among children; grabbing toys, deliberately provoking others, and unintentionally violating class rules and other such incidents. Generally speaking, teachers are used to stopping conflicts immediately, and then resolving them to avoid a fight. However, one incident changed my mind about the effectiveness of this method. It is much better to give children back the right to solve problems

One day, we went to the Train Station during outdoor activities. All Children liked playing with the steering wheel and honking to pretend to be the driver. Ding Ding and Dang Dang started arguing because they were both scrambling to play with the train’s steering wheel.Before I came to solve the problem, the two children used their own way to solve their conflict. Dang Dang said: "You should not play alone, because the teacher said everyone should share toys." Ding Ding said: "I ??came first, and you cannot grab my steering wheel. "Dang Dang said: "Well, why don’t we count; each one plays twenty times, OK?" Ding Ding agreed, and then two boys played happily. I watched all of this with a smile. After a while, I noticed that they had found a better way to play: one was whistling: "Woo -- Woo --", the other was driving, “Rumble! Rumble!" It seemed that the train was really coming.

Conflict involves conscious choice, for example two participants objecting to each other’s requests or one side preventing the other sides from attempting something. It also is an inevitable part of some educational activities

How should we resolve conflicts between children? In addition to providing the children with a relaxed environment, and teaching children some basic skills to avoid and resolve conflicts, I particularly focus on enhancing children's ability of resolving contradictions and conflicts by themselves. To outline, the problem-solving method in our class has three steps: first is to tell your feelings at that time; second is to hear the other’s feelings; the third is to discuss a solution together. Using the example of a child taking another child's book, and the one whose book was taken can express himself in this way: “Firstly, you robbed my book and I was very upset, secondly, I don’t think you are right. If you want to read it, then you can first ask for my permission” Then two children discussed a solution: two children can read together, or one waits until the other finishes reading to take turns with the book and so on.

In a kindergarten’s daily life, conflicts happen frequently. If all of the conflicts are solved by teachers, then it will increase children’s dependence to solve problems. So teachers should go ahead boldly and encourage children to find ways to solve conflicts themselves. In this way not only can we develop children’s independent problem solving ability, but also give children a feeling of success and satisfaction. We should not just focus on the bad aspects of conflicts, but also see its positive side of helping children grow and progress. It provides a great opportunity for a child to develop social skills, and for teachers to observe and guide their children. We should pay attention to guiding children and solving these conflicts reasonably every day, as well as encourage children to solve problems by themselves. Give back children the right to solve problems!




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